Making adult decisions

Wedding!

As Daniel and I near our first year of marriage I’ve been thinking a lot about what it really means to be an adult.

I’ve never really felt my age, being the baby of 3 kids will do that to you, and even now at 25 they still make me feel like a little girl. My siblings are 13 and 10 years older than me so they’ll always have that one up. I’m okay with that.

At 16, I was sure I’d feel like an adult at 18. At 18, I thought that moment would come at 21. Rinse and repeat. Now at 25, as a married woman, I’m starting to feel a little like an adult. Not every day though. That would be silly.

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Sisters marrying brothers

No not like that, you weirdo.

But heh, gotcha.

For realsies though – This is what my sister and I did (if you didn’t already know), we married brothers.

Sean and Kim (both about 10 years older than me) met a little while before I met Daniel. They clicked and not long after, they were married.

In December of 2004, Daniel and I met and it wasn’t the Disney-style love at first sight situation. And yet two years later, at the age of 17, Daniel and I started dating.

Marriage!
Marriage!

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I’m guilty of being indifferent

I’m getting married in one week.

Just seven days from now.

And I’ve been so indifferent about this wedding, I’ve even shocked myself.

Until I saw this: http://mywifesfightwithbreastcancer.com

The Battle We Didn't Choose
The Battle We Didn’t Choose

It’s a story about one man and the woman he loves who got cancer. Angelo Merendino photographed his wife’s progression through her years of dealing with cancer until the day it took her away from him.

It’s real and hard to look at and I’m trying not to cry just thinking about it. But it’s life.

I saw that quote by Jennifer, the beautiful woman in the photos, “Love every morsel of the people in your life.” and it dawned on me – even the horrible parts of life are worth loving. Because it may be the last experience you ever have.

I suddenly feel so bad about how I’ve been reacting to my impending nuptials, purely based on how this amazing woman dealt with a disease that was out to end her life.

Who am I to be blasé or annoyed by my upcoming wedding? How dare I brush it aside because I’d rather worry about money?

“Love every morsel of the people in your life.” What could be more important?

So yes, I’m being a little soppy and emotional but it hit me, reading through Jennifer and Angelo’s experiences, that life really is too short to not show the people in our lives that we love them. In turn, life is too short to not love every moment of every day.

Right?

xo Robi

The Proposal Party

If you didn’t know, Daniel and I have been dating for 6 years now. We started dating when I was a wee 17 years old.

After a long time of hinting requesting a date for when the big question would be asked (because we had agreed it would be happening at some point…), it finally happened!

Just out of the blue, under the guise of a family braai, I walked into my aunt’s house and got a big surprise. I, however, first ignored said surprise because I really wasn’t expecting anything!

Here’s the video evidence. (Yes, there was much shaking and crying – happily)

THE BOARDS I’M READING SAY:

1) Don’t ask any questions… Just read. :)

2) Behind me is a row of people – each one also holding a sheet. All you need to do (for now) is read each one OUT LOUD!

3) 6 years ago

4) I thought you made me the happiest man in the world…

5) 6 years on…

6) And my heart still pounds when I think about how much I love you!

7) And I’ve come to realise

8) There is only one way that I can be happier…

The boards I had to read out loud were a speech that Daniel had written. It was so sweet and romantic, just like the man himself. I couldn’t be happier with the proposal and the entire day.

Engaged!
Engaged!
The ring
The ring – Tanzanite – EXACTLY what I wanted!

More than anything, the huge amount of tweets, Facebook messages and Instagram comments that Danny and I received to congratulate us was amazing! We really felt the love. Thank you, everyone!

And again, to my family and loved ones that made the day so amazing and special – Thank you. You all mean the world to me!

Now for the planning! Warp speed ahead! (But not too fast, weddings are expensive.)

Robi xo